An Immersive Weekend Retreat

Exploring Eros

Through Consensual Conscious Touch

June 12–14 ◆ Menla Retreat Center ◆ Phoenicia, NY

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The Invitation

Step into a sacred weekend of exploration, connection, and embodied awakening. This retreat offers a unique and integrative approach to understanding both your own desires and the dynamics of giving and receiving — in a space held with care, consent, and deep reverence.

Most people were never taught how to truly communicate desire.

They were never taught how to understand their body… how to ask for what they want… how to create safety in intimacy… or how to experience pleasure without shame, fear, pressure, or performance.

So many people are quietly suffering: disconnected from their bodies, disconnected from their partners — craving intimacy, aliveness, and deeper connection, but unsure how to create it.

This retreat offers knowledge, tools, and practices that build the bridge of connection — the bridge between you and your body, you and your desires, and you and your partner.

Niav Connor

Over time, this disconnection
impacts everything

Joy & Vitality
Confidence
Creativity
Relationships
The ability to feel
fully alive
What You'll Cultivate

A Journey Into Embodied Presence

Exploring Eros is a transformational retreat designed to help you reconnect — to yourself, your body, your desires, and the sacred intelligence of eros itself.

Through the powerful integration of the Wheel of Consent, Erotic Blueprints, and the 5 Elements of Tantric Touch, you'll gain practical tools and embodied experiences that can profoundly transform the way you relate to intimacy, communication, pleasure, and connection.

This is not just a retreat where you learn concepts.
It's a deeply embodied experience of healing, exploration, and authentic connection.

You'll Learn How To

Communicate desires and boundaries without shame
Create deeper safety and trust in intimacy
Understand your own erotic language — and your partner's
Experience more aliveness, freedom, confidence, and pleasure in your body
Create safety, connection, and erotic freedom through consent
Move from blame and shutdown into compassion, curiosity, and understanding

For Many, This Retreat Becomes a Profound Revelation

“My body was never broken.”
“Pleasure is learnable.”
“I’m allowed to want what I want.”
“Safety is sexy.”
“My eroticism is sacred.”

This Retreat Is For You

For individuals and couples who are ready to move beyond performance, avoidance, and disconnection — and step into a more alive, empowered, loving, and authentic relationship with eros.

Eros is not just sexuality.

Eros is life force. Eros is aliveness. Eros is your capacity to feel fully alive, creative, and ecstatic in your own body and in your relationships.

The Teachings

Drawing From Powerful Frameworks

Betty Martin's Wheel of Consent

A transformative model for understanding the four quadrants of giving, receiving, allowing, and taking — and how consent shapes all touch.

Jaiya's Erotic Blueprints

A revolutionary map of the five core erotic types — Energetic, Sensual, Sexual, Kinky, and Shapeshifter — to help you understand your unique pleasure language.

Five Elements of Tantric Touch

Drawing from both Neo and Classical Tantra, these five elemental forces awaken the full spectrum of embodied experience:

🜃 Earth — The Ground of DevotionSlow, steady, anchoring touch that invites the body to soften into safety… to land, to be held, to belong.
🜄 Water — The Art of SurrenderFluid, rhythmic, caressing touch that melts the body open, awakening receptivity, emotion, and gentle flow.
🜂 Fire — The Pulse of DesireFocused, intentional touch that ignites heat, vitality, and the raw aliveness of eros moving through the body.
🜁 Air — The Whisper of SensationLight, teasing, barely-there touch that awakens sensitivity, play, and the delicious edge of anticipation.
✦ Ether — The Sacred Space BetweenStillness. Presence. The pause where nothing happens—and everything is felt. Where energy expands, and connection deepens beyond touch.
The Setting

Nestled in the Catskill Mountains

Menla Retreat Center in Phoenicia, New York is a sanctuary of extraordinary beauty — surrounded by ancient forests, a pristine mountain lake, and infused with Tibetan Buddhist wisdom and art. The center offers a sacred pool, sauna, meditation halls, and nourishing all-inclusive meals.

Tibetan-inspired interior at Menla
Investment · All Inclusive

Space is Limited

Singles

Deluxe Queen / Private Bath — Singles
Deluxe Queen / Private Bath
$1,300

Rate per occupant.

✕ Sold Out
Single Private Room / Shared Bath
Single Private Room / Shared Bath
$975

Rate per occupant.

◆ 2 available
Single Double Room / Shared Bath
Single Double Room / Shared Bath
$925

Rate per occupant.

◆ 2 available
Single Quad Room / Shared Bath
Single Quad Room / Shared Bath
$850

Rate per occupant.

◆ 4 available

Couples

Deluxe Queen / Private Bath — Couples
Deluxe Queen / Private Bath
$2,000

Per couple.

◆ Only 1 room remaining
Deluxe King / Private Bath — Couples
Deluxe King / Private Bath
$2,200

Per couple.

✕ Sold Out

Couples and singles are warmly welcome. All rates include meals and accommodation.

Secure Your Spot
Niav Connor
Menla Tibetan Interior
The Setting

Experience Menla
Tibet in the Catskills

Experience Menla's unique wellness facilities. From Dewa Spa to fully equipped yoga and movement spaces, fitness room, and hiking trails, there's so much to do.

Explore the surrounding Catskill Forest Preserve with guided hikes, river rafting, swimming, horseback riding, and more!

Good to Know

Planning Your Journey

✦ What's Not Included

TransportationGetting to the Catskills is not included — we will create a carpool sheet for those that need it.
Spa TreatmentsMassage, acupuncture, reflexology, herbal baths, and Temezcal (sweatlodge) available on-site at additional cost.
Travel InsuranceOptional but recommended.

✦ How to Get There

Menla Retreat CenterA 330-acre private nature reserve in the Catskill Mountains, New York.
By Car2 hours north of the GW Bridge in New York City.
By Bus3 hours from NYC via Adirondack Trailways to Phoenicia, NY.
Niav Connor

Niav Connor

MA, Psych · VITA Certified Coach

Niav Connor, MA, is a VITA-certified Sex, Love & Relationship Coach, Men's Sexuality Coach (trained through Layla Martin, 2018), and certified Tantra Teacher (Ma Ananda Sarita, 2023) devoted to helping individuals and couples heal, awaken, and deepen into sacred intimacy. Her work bridges clinical psychology, attachment repair, and conscious sexuality, informed by advanced training and ongoing supervision since 2021 with leaders in the field of attachment repair.

She is also trained in the Erotic Blueprints™ methodology by Jaiya (2020), and has studied Tantra extensively, including a six-month immersion with Christopher Hareesh Wallace, author of Tantra Illuminated (2011), along with additional study with Charles Muir and Leah Piper.

Trauma-informed and deeply relational, Niav creates safe, attuned spaces where shame can soften and the body can be experienced as a source of pleasure, power, and sacred connection.

VITA Certified 3 Decades of Practice Neo & Classical Tantra Attachment Repair Erotic Blueprints

Begin Your
Journey

Space is limited and fills quickly. Reach out to register or ask any questions — Niav will personally respond to each inquiry.

Register via Email or write directly to niav@niavconnorcoaching.com

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