Exploring Eros

The Invitation

Step into a sacred weekend of exploration, connection, and embodied awakening. This retreat offers a unique and integrative approach to understanding both your own desires and the dynamics of giving and receiving — in a space held with care, consent, and deep reverence.

What You'll Cultivate

A Journey Into Embodied Presence

Clarity & Confidence

Cultivate clarity and confidence around consent, boundaries, and desire.

Your Erotic Blueprint

Discover your unique erotic blueprint and how you relate to pleasure.

Conscious Touch

Explore the art of conscious touch through elemental Tantric frameworks.

Give & Receive Deeply

Deepen your capacity to give and receive in ways that feel nourishing and aligned.

The Teachings

Drawing From Powerful Frameworks

Betty Martin's Wheel of Consent

A transformative model for understanding the four quadrants of giving, receiving, allowing, and taking — and how consent shapes all touch.

Jaiya's Erotic Blueprints

A revolutionary map of the five core erotic types — Energetic, Sensual, Sexual, Kinky, and Shapeshifter — to help you understand your unique pleasure language.

Five Elements of Tantric Touch

Drawing from both Neo and Classical Tantra, these five elemental forces awaken the full spectrum of embodied experience:

🜃 Earth — The Ground of DevotionSlow, steady, anchoring touch that invites the body to soften into safety… to land, to be held, to belong.

🜄 Water — The Art of SurrenderFluid, rhythmic, caressing touch that melts the body open, awakening receptivity, emotion, and gentle flow.

🜂 Fire — The Pulse of DesireFocused, intentional touch that ignites heat, vitality, and the raw aliveness of eros moving through the body.

🜁 Air — The Whisper of SensationLight, teasing, barely-there touch that awakens sensitivity, play, and the delicious edge of anticipation.

✦ Ether — The Sacred Space BetweenStillness. Presence. The pause where nothing happens—and everything is felt. Where energy expands, and connection deepens beyond touch.

The Setting

Nestled in the Catskill Mountains

Menla Retreat Center in Phoenicia, New York is a sanctuary of extraordinary beauty — surrounded by ancient forests, a pristine mountain lake, and infused with Tibetan Buddhist wisdom and art. The center offers a sacred pool, sauna, meditation halls, and nourishing all-inclusive meals.

Investment · All Inclusive

Space is Limited

Singles Deluxe Queen / Private Bath

$1,300

Early Bird · Through May 15$1,150

Rate per occupant.

Couples Deluxe Queen / Private Bath

$2,000

Early Bird · Through May 15$1,800

Per couple.

Couples Deluxe King / Private Bath

$2,200

Early Bird · Through May 15$2,000

Per couple.

Couples and singles are warmly welcome. All rates include meals and accommodation.

Secure Your Spot

The Setting

Experience Menla
Tibet in the Catskills

Experience Menla's unique wellness facilities. From Dewa Spa to fully equipped yoga and movement spaces, fitness room, and hiking trails, there's so much to do.

Explore the surrounding Catskill Forest Preserve with guided hikes, river rafting, swimming, horseback riding, and more!

Good to Know

Planning Your Journey

✦ What's Not Included

TransportationGetting to the Catskills is not included — we will create a carpool sheet for those that need it.

Spa TreatmentsMassage, acupuncture, reflexology, herbal baths, and Temezcal (sweatlodge) available on-site at additional cost.

Travel InsuranceOptional but recommended.

✦ How to Get There

Menla Retreat CenterA 330-acre private nature reserve in the Catskill Mountains, New York.

By Car2 hours north of the GW Bridge in New York City.

By Bus3 hours from NYC via Adirondack Trailways to Phoenicia, NY.

Niav Connor

MA, Psych · VITA Certified Coach

Niav Connor, MA, is a VITA-certified Sex, Love & Relationship Coach, Men's Sexuality Coach (trained through Layla Martin, 2018), and certified Tantra Teacher (Ma Ananda Sarita, 2023) devoted to helping individuals and couples heal, awaken, and deepen into sacred intimacy. Her work bridges clinical psychology, attachment repair, and conscious sexuality, informed by advanced training and ongoing supervision since 2021 with leaders in the field of attachment repair.

She is also trained in the Erotic Blueprints™ methodology by Jaiya (2020), and has studied Tantra extensively, including a six-month immersion with Christopher Hareesh Wallace, author of Tantra Illuminated (2011), along with additional study with Charles Muir and Leah Piper.

Trauma-informed and deeply relational, Niav creates safe, attuned spaces where shame can soften and the body can be experienced as a source of pleasure, power, and sacred connection.

VITA Certified 3 Decades of Practice Neo & Classical Tantra Attachment Repair Erotic Blueprints

Begin Your
Journey

Space is limited and fills quickly. Reach out to register or ask any questions — Niav will personally respond to each inquiry.

⬥ Space is limited · Register early ⬥